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08/15/15: Longevity and Caring Staff

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Anna Diaz, Administrator of Noble Health Care Center, Noble, OK and Lois Lenz, resident for 4 years, share a hug.

by Vickie Jenkins

Anna Diaz is the Administrator of Noble Health Care Center in Noble, OK. The city of Noble declared July 22nd as Noble Health Care Center Day in recognition of the staff and employee’s loyalty, hard work and devotion to the elderly of their community and achievement in the Best Practices and Administrator of the Year awards.
Today, celebrating Noble Health Care Center Day, representatives from local hospices, dental agencies, retirements centers, etc. are on hand for the big event. The celebration is open to all. Balloons are hung, music is playing and plenty of food is being served. The music is provided by the Tinker Flying High Band and even ‘Elvis’ will be making an appearance, singing songs along with his famous dance moves.
Diaz has been at Noble Health Care Center for 21 years. “I just love these people so much,” she says. “It’s so easy to get attached to them because there is such a strong bond between us. I always remember why I am here; to touch lives. We have a very caring staff and I feel like they give their all to our residents. It’s like we are one big happy family, “ Diaz adds. “Some of our residents have lived here for a long time and I can’t tell you how close we become to that person and their families. We receive thank-you cards all the time from family members. It is so touching to be a part of this extended family.”
Asking Diaz what her greatest asset is, she replies. “I believe in longevity and a caring staff. We care for each other and we definitely work as a team. We laugh and we smile and we care for each other.”
Diaz thinks that Noble Health Care Center is the best nursing home around. “I think it is because of the tender loving care that each employee and each staff member share with the residents. It’s the caring that makes a difference, making our facility stand out from the rest. Love is present throughout the home and I think we all feel it; the residents and the staff. We are happy and positive and it shows each time we are with our residents. It’s not about the building where these residents live, but it’s about each individual and the strong foundation of the people on the inside that make up this home.”
When asking Diaz what her most rewarding thing about her job was, she answered. “Oh, it’s definitely the hugs from the residents. I usually can’t get down the hallway without someone giving me a hug or me taking the time to stop and chat for a minute. I love the people here. I feel so good about knowing how I am touching another person’s life in the smallest way. Sometimes, a smile, a hug, a kind gesture is all it takes. I know it is a true blessing because it is the residents that touch my life. To tell you the truth, we need each other.”
“What do you think is your biggest challenge here at the facility?” I ask. “I think it is the fact that I want to make sure everyone is happy. I can always tell if someone is having a bad day. We try to have good times, staying positive in every way. I realize that whatever I do is going to reflect back on me so I need to be the best I can be.”
“There are many activities offered to the residents here. We play board games, and listen to music. There are entertainers that come to the facility. We have different people come in with their music and the residents enjoy that so much. We have arts and crafts for the residents and church services. We have a good time,” Diaz says.
Asking Diaz if she had any words of wisdom or words to live by, she replied, “Yes, I live an Ephesians 3:20 life which is from Journey Church.”
‘God can do anything you know, far more than you could ever imagine or guess or request in your wildest dreams. He does it not by pushing us around but by working within us, His spirit deeply and gently within us.’

08/15/15: Heritage Point senior still going strong at 100

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Lois Butler has seen a lot in the last 100 years. And the Heritage Point resident intends to see a lot more after celebrating her 100th birthday recently.

by Mike Lee, Staff Writer

One hundred years can go by in the blink of an eye, but Lois Butler doesn’t plan on missing another second after celebrating her 100th birthday recently.
Butler lives at Heritage Point, located at 12000 N MacArthur Blvd, in Oklahoma City.
And she positively radiates to anyone who meets her.
“It’s pretty amazing that she is able to get around quickly at her age,” said Billie Upshaw, R.N. at Heritage Point. “She is very with it, too. All who are around her know her kindness and benefit from her wisdom.”
Butler was born and raised in Cheney, Kansas – a city in Sedgwick County with a population now of just over 2,000.
Her intention was to always live there after working a career as a telephone operator before becoming a homemaker before the birth of her first child.
Her and her husband raised three daughters.
“My mother is a very kind, generous and loving person,” said Rochelle Rayburn, Butler’s daughter. “Mother was always busy with her family. She loved to entertain and was a wonderful cook and hostess. She always made sure she was available as a mother. I have so many memories of coming home from school and smelling chocolate chip cookies just coming out of the oven.”
Butler and her sisters grew up with a mother who was very active.
Butler was very active in the Order of the Eastern Star, a Freemasonic appendant body open to both men and women. It was established in 1850 by lawyer and educator Rob Morris, a noted Freemason.
The order is based on teachings from the Bible, but is open to people of all religious beliefs.
Butler advanced to the position of worthy matron, the highest and presiding officer of the 18-office chapter.
She was also active in P.E.O, which was founded on January 21, 1869, by seven students at Iowa Wesleyan College in Mount Pleasant, Iowa.
This circle of kindred spirits – bonded by their enthusiasm for women’s opportunities – eventually expanded to include women off campus, as well. Today, P.E.O. has grown from that tiny membership of seven to nearly a quarter of a million members in chapters throughout the U.S. and Canada, with headquarters in Des Moines, Iowa.
Her mother was always active at school and church and served on the hospitality board at The Golden Age Home in her 80’s and 90’s.
Visiting every Sunday, The Golden Age Home was what Butler chose as her personal ministry.
Butler was an integral part of the family wheat farming business. She would drive the wheat truck during harvest when needed.
When she wasn’t behind the wheel she was cooking for the hired hands and taking lunch to the field.
Butler credits her positive attitude and great emotional strength for much of her longevity and she’s quickly become a staff favorite at Heritage Point, which opened earlier this year.
“She is an absolute sweetheart and I like spending as much time talking with her as I possibly can,” staff member Charlie Brittain said.

08/15/15: ‘ARGUS AT THE WILL’ FEATURES OKC RETURN OF STATE’S MOST FAMOUS NIGHT CLUB COMIC

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Robin Williams once called legendary Oklahoma comedian Argus Hamilton “The Will Rogers of the Baby Boom.”
Now the Hollywood-based comic will be welcomed back to Oklahoma City in a comedy dinner show at The Will Rogers Theater.
Hamilton, the host comedian at The Comedy Store in West Hollywood, Calif. and syndicated newspaper humor columnist, will star in “Argus at the Will.” a show that also features local comedians Kelly “Dr. K” Flanagan, Stan Silliman and Brett James, at 7:30 p.m. Friday, Aug. 21.
Tickets for the show are $55 general admission and $65 VIP when ordered in advance at TicketStorm.com or by calling 866-966-1777. The theater’s Classic Americana Buffet is included in the price of the ticket. There will be a cash bar featuring noted mixologist JoDaniel Johnson, who was recognized by The Oklahoma Gazette as one of the top bartenders in Oklahoma City.
Hamilton was delighted at the title and location of the show because Robin Williams and Hamilton’s timeless wit are not the only links he has to Will Rogers. His grandfather, Argus James Hamilton Sr., was a college friend of Rogers and officiated at the classic comedian’s funeral.
Hamilton’s resume includes four decades of comedy. After working as a writer for the television series “Laugh In,” he was one of the pioneer comedians of the 1980s comedy boom, making several appearances on the “Tonight Show starring Johnny Carson.” In 2007, former Oklahoma Gov. Brad Henry named Hamilton the Official Comedian of the Centennial, honoring the state’s 100th anniversary.
Dr. K will be opening and hosting the show. The former journalist and college professor is a 10-year veteran of comedy and brings a unique mixture of one-liners and analogies to the stage
Also featured is author/comedian Stan Silliman, who has written for feature and headlining comics nationwide, cartoonists, roasts and special assignments. His cartoon-humorous poetry book “The News in Double Dactyls” was named Oklahoma Best Book of Poetry in 2002.
Also performing in the show is Brett James, who has taken the Oklahoma comedy scene by force in the past two years. James is a two-time qualifier for the World Series of Comedy. A master sergeant and budget analyst in the U.S. Air Force for almost 20 years, James is also touring the country as part of the Veterans of Comedy Tour.
The doors will open at 7 p.m. and dinner will be served at 7:30. The show begins at 8:30 p.m.

Dr  K

Brett James

08/15/15: The Voice, Speaking Out for Seniors

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Keith Dobbs is President and CEO of CARE Coalition of Advocates for Responsible Eldercare. He is the voice for seniors throughout Oklahoma, making a difference in their lives.

by Vickie Jenkins

Meet Mr. Keith Dobbs, President and CEO of CARE, Coalition of Advocates for Responsible Eldercare. This organization was established in 2004 to advocate on behalf of the long-term care community and the frail, elderly and disabled residents which they serve. With a mission to advance the value of long-term health care in Oklahoma, CARE achieves this by sharing the passion and joy of those in the profession through effective education and marketing. Dobbs has been President and CEO of CARE for 2 1/2 years. “My goal with CARE is to understand what is going on in the health care facilities and be a resource as an advocate for the seniors, being their voice and passing it on to our legislatures,” Dobbs states.
Dobbs has worked in several different states, working with hospitals, physicians and long-term health care facilities for quite a few years. “In the past, I have worked in Dallas, California and New York including Long Island. I was traveling all over and seeing up to 4000 physicians. That’s when there was an opportunity to work in Oklahoma. Since I am originally from Oklahoma and have an appreciate for the people here, I decided to move back. I have an understanding with marketing and communication skills and I feel like I can relate and talk to the seniors. Now, I travel all over Oklahoma, visiting every nursing home and health care facility that I am able to; from the big cities to the small rural towns. I talk to the elderly, listen to their stories and become their voice. Presently, I am the only advocate for seniors and their caregivers in Oklahoma. I guess you could say that I am a professional senior storyteller, speaking out for seniors. We have seen some very positive results,” Dobbs comments.
“What is the oldest senior that you have talked with as you travel to the different health care facilities?” I ask Dobbs. “The oldest person that I have talked with is a little lady at Heritage Villa Nursing Home in Bartlesville, OK. She is 108 and is such a delight. She is so sharp and cute,” Dobbs laughs. “She got her driver’s license at the age of 65. How many people can say that? Her name is Mittie Dailey and she has quite a legacy. She has 6 children, 21 grandchildren, 56 great grandchildren, 78 great, great grandchildren, and 14 great, great, great grandchildren. Now that is one large family get-together and she loves on every single one of them.”
Asking Dobbs what his biggest challenge in his job is, he replies, “The biggest challenge I see is when the resident is in a nursing home and their family is not as involved as they should be. That can be so sad. That is when I am glad that the caregivers are there for them.”
Over the years, Dobbs has visited over 300 facilities, seeing 600-800 people. Each trip is different and unique. “I really get attached to these older people,” Dobbs says. “When I do visit them, I am usually there for quite a while because they have so much they want to say. They tell me all sorts of stories, some funny and some sad. I feel like if I make that person feel like the most important person in the world that day, I have done my job. Helping these seniors is the most rewarding job for me.”
“What is your biggest asset?” I ask Dobbs. “I would have to say the fact that I am given the opportunity to know that I can talk to this person, take one moment in time and bring happiness to them. Sometimes, it can be a bouquet of flowers, or hundreds of birthday cards (1500) with the help of social media to the senior that thought no one would remember. It could be singing a song or doing a little dance with the senior that thought no one would join in. It’s watching the senior glow with delight. It’s making their wish come true. Yes, I am a senior storyteller and I will continue to be the voice of the elderly people, making a difference in their lives, along with mine,” Dobbs says.

08/15/15: New technology helps seniors stay closer

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Seniors can stay connected to their loves ones without worrying about learning a new technology.

by Mike Lee, Staff Writer

Between Facebook timelines, Twitter feeds and Instagram posts there’s a million ways for people to stay “connected” in this busy world.
But not everyone can keep up with the latest communication fad.
And even if you have mastered your Facebook page that doesn’t mean your kids or your grandkids haven’t moved on to something else.
That was the problem that Keith Kocho, founder and CEO of bloom decided to tackle.
With a diabetic father in Ontario who suffered a stroke alone at home, Kocho understands better than most the sheer practical importance of staying in touch.
But he wanted something more than just a way to monitor his dad’s health.
“Between us, my father and I had lots of technology — computers, tablets, smartphones, social networks, and video conferencing apps. But when I wanted to connect him with the kids, there were challenges,” Kocho said. “Then it struck me that the right approach was to start from scratch and build something integrated and intuitive with a splash of humanity.
Doing his research, Kocho determined the market was saturated with devices that were designed to monitor someone’s physical health or safety in the home. But there wasn’t anything that made it effortless to stay in touch with loved ones.
The bloom product has three distinct yet integrated components: the bloomview display, the bloomband wearable, and a bloomapp available for iOS and Android. Family members share photos and videos through the bloomapp that appear on the bloomview, a stylish, portable display that looks at home in the kitchen or living room. By wearing the bloomband and approaching the bloomview, grandparents automatically trigger those shared moments to appear on the display.
If something piques their interest, they can then initiate video calls with family members right from the bloomview. During these video calls, bloom helps keep conversations rich and current by showing the most recent shared images, ensuring families always have something to talk about.
Heritage Point Senior Living Services Executive Director Melva Noakes is a National Certified Dementia Care Manager who applauds technology like bloom.
“I think this is fantastic for our seniors and their families,” said Noakes, who oversees the Oklahoma City community that specializes in Alzheimer’s and memory care services. “We as families live a busy schedule and this would make us feel a vital part of our seniors’ life.”
Bloom also removes technical barriers to communication, never asking about confusing updates or login credentials. The bloomview makes use of customers’ home Wi-Fi, so users can just plug it in and instantly begin viewing content shared by family members.
“It’s a powerful, but elegant piece of technology in their homes,” Kocho said. “The proactive part is if you’re talking to someone on a regular basis and sharing with them you’re in a much better position to know if they are having health or social issues.
“So it’s a better model than putting a panic button on them and waiting for them to fall down.”
Backed by Google Ventures and FKA, bloom connects families across generations and geographies.
“bloom is a great example of the type of high tech, high touch technology that has huge potential to impact the quality of life of older adults and their families,” said Katie Fike, PhD Gerontologist and co-founder of Aging 2.0. “The contextual awareness and ultra simple interface facilitates family communication in a way that feels magical and seamless instead of frustrating and overtly technical.”
The bloomband wearable also includes additional health and safety features, like activity tracking and emergency support. It’s a wearable that enriches all aspects of a user’s everyday life — from emotional to physical wellness.
Noakes said as long as the technology barrier is low then the results can be amazing for all involved. “It allows both family and seniors to see the things as they happen,” Noakes said. “It also helps with depression and the quality of life for our seniors. We have even found that the resident feels a burst of excitement when talking about his family which enhances their memory and communication.”
Kocho is happy with the outcome and is now taking orders for holiday season delivery.
“We’re looking to bring families closer together and provide them with peace of mind knowing their loved ones are safe, easy to reach, and not missing out on memorable moments,” Kocho said.

08/15/15 SENIOR TALK: What is your favorite season and why? Easter Seals Oklahoma, OK

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What is your favorite season and why? Easter Seals Oklahoma, OK

“I like all of the different seasons but I will say winter because my birthday is in January.” Lena Tisdale

“I like spring.  Everything is just better in the spring.” Gerald Cunningham

“I like  the fall.  I like the cool weather.” Lloyd Fortune

“I like the summer.” Julia Loveless

08/15/15: TRAVEL/ ENTERTAINMENT: A Road Trip Through Georgia

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Photography and Text by Terry “Travels with Terry” Zinn  [email protected]DSC_0151

When you think of visiting Georgia you may only think of the big towns like Atlanta or Augusta, but there are other fascinating towns if you can make the time to travel by car which produces your own unique road trip.
Atlanta does have a lot to offer and I have to say I am impressed with my overnight stay at the Westin Peach Tree Plaza Hotel (https://www.marriott.com/hotels/travel/atlpl-the-westin-peachtree-plaza-atlanta/), with its downtown location, comfy rooms and an impressive observation deck on the 73 floor, capped off with a cocktail lounge and The Sundial Restaurant on adjoining floors. During the cocktail hour I enjoyed their Bar 73 New Georgia Peach Martini ($14) of Grey Goose, Peach Schnapps and Amaretto, to accompany a small Caesar salad ($9). The rotating cocktail lounge is a combination of exhilaration and relaxation with incomparable views of Atlanta.
Augusta (http://www.visitaugusta.com/) offers the historic yet quirky Partridge Inn which was the center of tourist attention of 1889 to 1930. After a recent renovation following many more previous additions, the Partridge Inn sits on “the hill,” as a testament to time and travelers of all seasons. A cocktail or light supper out on the verandah offers a tranquil and southern elegant evening. And while Augusta’s funky, The Bees Knees Restaurant is known for its variety of Tapas, I delighted in my first chicken and waffles. Among many attractions, Augusta offers for your education and enjoyment; the Canal National Heritage area, the Museum of History with a special exhibit of home town musician, James Brown, and an historic downtown with its Haunted Pillar. Touching or moving it may result in a death.
Escape to Statesboro (www.visitstatesboroga.com) where you will find a banquet size meal served in family style elegance complete with ghosts stories in the Historic Beaver House Restaurant (http://www.thebeaverhouserestaurant.com) at 121 South Main Street.
The home dates back to 1911 and has an antebellum charm but in a real family residence, where room sizes are small but portions are large. The Traditional Boarding House Dinner served on Friday and Saturdays offers exceptional Prime Rib and Fried Fantail Shrimp which is served along with a plethora of homemade sides. And if you need a sweet desert or more, try the Cotton Patch Bakery and Deli for more homemade madness. If you are in a shopping mode on certain days take in the Main Street Farmers market and the nearby comic memorabilia shop, that brings out the kid in us all.
Statesboro is also home of legendary entertainer Emma Kelly. She was called by song writer Johnny Mercer as the lady of ten thousand songs, She is featured in a chapter in the book “Midnight in the Garden of Good and Evil,” and I was privilege to have sat in on a couple of her cocktail lounge performances in Savanah in past years. It was a life affirming joy to see that Statesboro renamed a theater in her honor before she past. (http://www.averittcenterforthearts.org)
You may think you are in Europe when you stay at the Hotel Indigo in Athens, Georgia. The rooms are equipped with modern amenities, and light switches that may take a little exploration for you to work. This modern design and the hotel’s LEED Gold Certified property of sustainability, fits perfectly with Athens being the host to the University of Georgia.
As one might expect of a university town, Athens has upscale dining as I experienced at The Five & Ten Restaurant where I had a pre fix dinner of Smoked Kielbasa with artichokes, radicchio, fermented sunchoke, sorghum gastrique with sunflower seeds, and an entrée of Glazed Lamb Shoulder with pickled blueberries, hakurei turnips, fennel, smoked pecans and onion broth. A red wine of Minerviois, Chateau D’Oupia, from Languedoc, France 2012 accompanied the meal before the desert of Panna Cotta with pecan sandie thumbprint and pickled peaches. All was impeccably served and while the Lamb was delicious the Panna Cotta was ecstasy! And the true test of fine dining is a properly prepared Martini, which Five & Ten poured to my satisfaction.
Besides the Georgia Museum of Art, artistic delights should be consumed at a number of other eateries, including The Place, Creature Comforts Brewery and the roof top of the Georgia Theatre at Phickles Pickles serving Fried Chicken Skins and Pimento Cheese made with goat cheese. Yum!
Albany, Georgia (http://www.albany.ga.us) has the Ray Charles Plaza complete with a bronze of the entertainer and his piano at Riverfront Park, the Welcome Center in the old bridge house of the Flint River, the Civil Rights Institute and the new Flint River Aquarium. Albany is home to eight golf course and a number of entertainers including, Ray Stevens, Luke Bryan and American Idol Winner, Phillip Phillips. To round out your road trip a stop in Washington (www.historyofwilkes.org) will be a surprise you will not forget with its quaint town square, row upon row of architectural house gems, and the Washington Historical Museum in a home built in 1835, and today serves as a reminder of the past to understand the future of Wilkes County.
When in Georgia think about taking in one of these under sung locales.

Mr. Terry Zinn – Travel Editor
Past President: International Food Wine and Travel Writers Association
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08/15/15: GREG SCHWEM: This selfie stick makes my life awesome!

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By Greg Schwem

For a week I sat in a lawn chair next to our mailbox, waiting for the sound of the U.S. Postal Service truck. Or UPS. I didn’t care who delivered it. But the wait was unbearable.
“Not today,” our mail carrier said as she handed me an armload of back-to-school catalogues, casino invitations and a property tax bill, the latter requiring my immediate attention. “I’m sorry, Mr. Schwem.”
“It’s NEVER gonna get here,” I wailed.
“You should look into Amazon Prime. Guaranteed two-day shipping,” she said before continuing down the block.
Finally, the blessed day occurred. “There’s a package for you in the hall,” my wife said, waving her hand in that direction as if I had forgotten where our foyer was located. “Are you expecting something?”
I charged toward our home’s front door, nearly colliding with the dog. A brown, skinny cardboard box lay on the coffee table.
“It’s here. It’s finally here,” I squealed in delight.
“WHAT’S here?” my wife asked.
“My selfie stick.”
“That doesn’t say ‘selfie stick,’” my wife said, glancing at the now opened box. It says, ‘Premium All in One Telescopic Pole.’”
“That’s the fancy title. It’s a selfie stick.”
“And what are you planning to do with that?” she asked as I extended the stick to its full 47-inch length, nearly knocking a decorative plate off the table in the process.
“What WON’T I do with it?” I replied, attaching my iPhone to the universal Smartphone mount, hitting ‘record’ and aiming the stick directly at her face. Might as well capture this teaching moment.
“Honey, the possibilities are endless,” I continued. “I can take it to concerts and sporting events and block the views of people sitting behind me while I record hours of shaky, out-of-focus footage that I know I’ll never watch!”
“Is that all?”
“Of course not. Now I can walk through airports holding the stick in front of me and talking to it!”
“And what does one say to a selfie stick?”
“Something profound like, ‘Hey, I’m in the airport. I’m walking toward the gate now and pretty soon I’m gonna get on a plane and go to Orlando. But first I’m gonna stop at Starbucks.’ Then I’ll spend the flight editing the footage on iMovie and, by the time the plane lands, I’ll have it posted on YouTube so everybody can see just how narcissistic I am!”
“You think people will want to watch that?”
“Of course. Because my life is AWESOME. Everybody with a selfie stick thinks the same thing, which is why we want to share the minutest details of our existence.”
Just then the door opened. My 18-year-old daughter entered, wearing headphones and bathed in sweat. I pointed the stick her way.
“Hi, honey, have you been out jogging?” I asked, the camera still rolling.
“No, Dad, a bucket of water fell on me from the sky,” she replied. “Wait, what are you doing? Why are you following me?”
“I’m not following you. I’m just casually walking behind you and recording this without your permission. That’s what you do when you own a selfie stick.”
“Dad, I’m about to take a shower. Mom, make him stop!”
“Lower the stick, Greg,” my wife commanded. “NOW!”
I switched the phone off. The battery had dropped from 76 percent to eight, one of the drawbacks of continuous photography and movie making. I plugged it into the nearest charger. Selfie stick owners need a steady supply of juice.
“I don’t want to see that thing in the house,” she said.
“Can we have this conversation later?” I asked. “When my phone is recharged? I’ll record it and add it to my recently created ‘Arguments With My Wife’ YouTube channel.”
“If you want to use that stick for work, promotion, whatever, that’s fine. But you’re not putting our lives on display. Got it?”
“Selfie stick owners don’t like hearing ‘no.’”
“Would this owner like his selfie stick broken in half?”

“Fine. I’m going outside to mow the lawn now.”

“How long will that take?”

“About 45 minutes. Maybe longer if the lighting is good. I need a new video for the ‘Guys Mowing their Lawns’ channel.”
“I don’t know you.”

(Greg Schwem is a corporate stand-up comedian and author of “Text Me If You’re Breathing: Observations, Frustrations and Life Lessons From a Low-Tech Dad,” available at http://bit.ly/gregschwem. Visit Greg on the Web at www.gregschwem.com.)

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SAVVY SENIOR: Understanding the Responsibilities of an Executor

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Dear Savvy Senior, An old family friend recently asked me to be the executor of his will when he dies. I feel flattered that he asked, but I’m not sure what exactly the job entails. What can you tell me? Concerned Friend

Dear Concerned,
Serving as the executor of your friend’s estate may seem like an honor, but it can also be a huge chore. Here’s what you should know to help you prepare. Rules and Responsibilities
As the executor of your friend’s will, you’re essentially responsible for winding up his affairs after he dies. While this may sound simple enough, you need to be aware that the job can be tedious, time consuming and difficult depending on the complexity of his financial and family situation. Some of the duties required include:
· Filing court papers to start the probate process (this is generally required by law to determine the will’s validity).
· Taking an inventory of everything in his estate.
· Using his estate’s funds to pay bills, including taxes, funeral costs, etc.
· Handling details like terminating his credit cards, and notifying banks and government agencies like Social Security and the post office of his death.
· Preparing and filing his final income tax returns.
· Distributing assets to the beneficiaries named in his will.
Be aware that each state has specific laws and timetables on an executor’s responsibilities. Your state or local bar association may have an online law library that details the rules and requirements. The American Bar Association website also offers guidance on how to settle an estate. Go to americanbar.org and type in “guidelines for individual executors and trustees” to find it.
Get Organized
If you agree to take on the responsibility as executor of your friend’s estate, your first step is to make sure he has an updated will, and find out where all his important documents and financial information is located. Being able to quickly put your hands on deeds, brokerage statements and insurance policies after he dies will save you a lot of time and hassle.
If he has a complex estate, you may want to hire an attorney or tax account to guide you through the process, with the estate picking up the cost. If you need help locating a pro, the National Association of Estate Planners and Councils (naepc.org) and the National Academy of Elder Law Attorneys (naela.org) are great resources that provide directories on their websites to help you find someone.
Avoid Conflicts
Find out if there are any conflicts between the beneficiaries of your friend’s estate. If there are some potential problems, you can make your job as executor much easier if everyone knows in advance who’s getting what, and why. So ask your friend to tell his beneficiaries what they can expect. This includes the personal items too, because wills often leave it up to the executor to dole out heirlooms. If there’s no distribution plan for personal property, suggest he make one and put it in writing.
Executor Fees
As the executor, you’re entitled to a fee paid by the estate. In most states executors are entitled to take a percentage of the estate’s value, which usually ranges anywhere from 1 to 5 percent depending on the size of the estate. But, if you’re a beneficiary, it may make sense for you to forgo the fee. That’s because fees are taxable, but Uncle Sam in most states don’t tax inheritances.
For more information on the duties of an executor, get a copy of the book “The Executor’s Guide: Settling A Loved One’s Estate or Trust” for $32 at nolo.com or call 800-728-3555.

Send your senior questions to: Savvy Senior, P.O. Box 5443, Norman, OK 73070, or visit SavvySenior.org. Jim Miller is a contributor to the NBC Today show and author of “The Savvy Senior” book.

08/15/15: Wetumka Funeral Home Director Sentenced for Embezzlement

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A Hughes County funeral home director has been sentenced for embezzling more than $125,000 from 28 families. An investigation by the Oklahoma Insurance Department’s Anti-Fraud Unit led to the charges against Donald Williamson, 57, of Wetumka.
“I’m proud of our Anti-Fraud Unit for uncovering this crime,” said Oklahoma Insurance Commissioner John D. Doak. “If they hadn’t stepped in when they did, there is a very good chance a grieving family would have been faced with the added pain of an unexpected expense. Thankfully, we were able to keep that from happening.”
Williamson owns Williamson-Spradlin Funeral Home in Wetumka. He admitted accepting money for prepaid funerals but not establishing trust funds or purchasing the insurance policies required for payouts. Instead, Williams deposited the money into the funeral home’s banking account to use for operating expenses. Investigators found 28 victims from Nov. 2011-Dec. 2014. By the end of the investigation, nearly $75,000 meant to pay for funerals was missing. Approximately $50,000 was still in the business banking account.
Williamson, who took out a personal loan to repay his victims, pleaded no contest to embezzlement and guilty to violating the Prepaid Funeral Benefits Law. The judge gave him a seven-year deferred sentence.
“We spent months working on this case,” said Rick Wagnon, Anti-Fraud Unit Chief. “Commissioner Doak hosted two town hall meetings in Wetumka to speak with possible victims. Both were standing room only. We’re just glad the victims got their money back.”